Whao! Its good to be back. Its been 6 months ever since i updated my blog…i apologize to those who has been waiting for my post for so long, guess im just too busy. Nothing to worry about, im back again. In this post, i will be discussing the factors involved and faced for people who engaged into a long distance relationship meets.

Let me refresh your memory on what LDR can draw up to you. It brings out the best in both yourself and your partner and on the other hand, it can drive away either one of your love feelings. LDR is really for those people who are patient and don’t want to rush into things and most of all, are for those  people who are much more focus. But…the question will bring about to what happens…When…LDR becomes an interval of Physical? Meaning both couple meets and share some lovely experience together? Well..lets state down the points slowly.

1) Expectation
As we all know, expectation has always been around expecially when you are engaged in a LDR, but do note that your mind play tricks upon your feelings and can twist and turn your expectation towards your partner ever now and then. When you are distanced apart with your partner, both of your time generally slows down, making your clock seems to be jumping from an hour to the other, rather than going by the ticks. Why? This is because, your mind is only updated every few hours interval when you sms with your bf / gf. You cant be on the phone for 24/7 with him/her, if you do, then this prove me wrong. lol, but you do have sometime of your own, when you txt and update your partner on what you both have been doing. So, its like me asking you, what is your bf doing now? You can say, He is watching TV. An hour later i asked you again, What is your bf doing now? If you hasn’t been texting him, you may say, I duno o, just now he say he is watching tv. Your time, has been stuck in the last hour when you txt him. So having to know the fact that your mind is always updated by your partners txt messages every hour of 2, automatically make your “Think” on what he / she is doing and over sometime at times when you feel lonely you will begin to ask yourself statements that consist of words like “Would it be nice if...” / “Whao…it will be so nice if...”..if your bf/gf is right next to you now. These “If” statements generate a whole lot of expectation towards your partner.

How did people who are engaged in a LDR, keep their expectation at a safe level?
Simple…They know they are in a LDR, the distance forces them to lower down their expectation on their partner and their everyday social life brings them away from thinking too much about it. This will be a time when many of them will say, “Nevermind lar…” (although in their heart, the real meaning is “Haiz..i want to see him / her”)

2) Realization
After expecting some expect from your long distance partner,  realization kicks into action. Your mind will begin to filter our the things that you want and you can’t have it and those that you want and you will go and get it. When you realize that some dreams is just a fantasy, you will keep it aside and quietly hope it will work out.

3) Suspecting
Its always a case then after you realize something, you begin to think and suspect on the other. Despite the fact that trust always fall in the number 1 category between you and your partner love, in both parties, you both will begin to suspect a little bit of suspicious. Imagine you bf say, i will send a pic of myself to you now, and when the picture is sent to you, you open it and see that a girl at the background is glaring at your bf. You will begin to think many thinks and also begun to question yourself. Questions like, Why is she staring at my bf? Who is she? Does she have any relation with my bf?  These question already create a form of suspectation towards the phenomenon. But the real case is that, the girl is staring at someone else, standing right opposite to your bf. lol.

When you meet up with your bf / gf, all the above mentioned category will fall into place. Things that you ones expect him to do but couldn’t be done due to  the separating long distance, will all flood into your mind. Suspectation on any potential culprits will soon be “temporary” deleted and in your mind, all that matters is, you have him. Physical activities will surely be at its peak and internity blinds reality comes to play as well.

If it’s so good, whats so bad about it then?
Note the part when i say physical will come into its peak? Thats the danger of it. You see, human work in a way to satisfy itself everytime when something bad happens. Like eg, I m thristy, i go to a water cooler to drink some water. I m hungry, ill take 10 min walk to a restaurant to buy something to fill my stomach. Now, guess this…You miss your gf and didnt see him for 2 months, what will you do 1st when he pops infront of you?

1) You smile. (Why?) Cuz you cant give him a real smile thru sms. (how about skype), internet transmitted smile..hmm..kinda fake rite? lol
2) You walk / You’ll run to him. (Why?) Cuz your body reacts to a way, i dun wan to wait any longer and wouldnt want to miss out any single time of being close with him.
3) You Hug. (Why?) Simple, you miss him and want him. Hugging a person will release the the stressfull toleration  held in your for over a period of time. In this case, is the long period of time you didnt get to see him / touch him.

So, the dangerous part of this comes back to physical. The more physical you are to your bf, the more likely you blind yourself away from the surrounding. So what is this bf of yours has cheated on you when you are not around?

Ah ha…why are you going to do? When u get so obsess into catching up sweet moments with him, you might not even be able to detect it.

LDR strength and weaknesses are both DISTANCE.
Strength : It build torrance, faith and trust which may lead to pure love.
Weaknesses : When distance doesnt matter, both throw away every “expecting/realizing/suspecting” factors and just go with the flow. (on which that is not love but lust.)

I am stuck, what should i do?
When you meet up with your partner the next time, spend more time talking and get to know each other more in terms of things that happen in your life. Talk freely and let your partner knows that “You can say anything and ill be ok with it, just promise me that you tell the truth” and since trust has always been the YES YES thing to you guys, so it wouldn’t be a problem.

I wish all the couple out there who meet this kind of issue, Good Luck and if you have any unresolved  problems, feel free to email me at somwhang_13@hotmail.com. Ill help you out when i got the time…Stay tune for the upcoming post, on which i will be discussing the factors on why its easier to fall in love right after your break up.

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